Your Local Mental Health Therapist
Lori L. Metevia
Counselor, MA, CAGS, LMHC
Qualifications
Years in Practice: 15+ Years
School: Assumption College
Year Graduated: 1992
License No. and State: 8094 Massachusetts
Additional Credentials
Certificate: Assumption College / CAGS
Certificate Date: 2010
The Chasm
Thinking about my role as a your therapist I picture a chasm. I can see you down below in a dark, narrow space. You’re alone, and you’re tired from all your efforts to find your way out. Maybe you don’t even know just how you got there but you’ve been there a long time. Or maybe you know damn well how and you’re furious with yourself or someone else. Either way, you’re stuck or lost and you’re not happy to have to call for help.
You don’t know it when I answer your call but I’ve been in some chasms myself, maybe the same one or maybe a similar one ( and I’m a licensed trail guide! ). We all have tough times. No matter, you called and I’m here. I’m standing above you and from my vantage point I can see what you can’t. You aren’t stuck in a cave! It’s a passage!
I start talking with you. I point out your next right move. I stay with you. I encourage you to keep going or suggest you rest awhile. I keep guiding you. I lower down some water, some nourishment. We might even find something to laugh about! Humor is great medicine. We keep going this way together. I can’t take even one step for you. You do this. It’s your passage. But beside my training and my own climbs, I’ve been guiding people for years. I’ve learned a lot and I love to use this to help other people prevail. When you’re out I cheer for you. We may talk about how rough it was and how far you’ve climbed. You’re relieved, proud of yourself and I’m so happy for you.
The Match
Over ten years ago I was going through a very painful transition, a chasm. I had intended to be married for the rest of my life and now I was devastated, broken and completely undone. I was desperately sad and scared for my future and for that of my two young boys. I went to see a therapist for some help. She was recommended by a close friend. All three of us; therapists. In our first session, she was smiling as she clasped her hands in her lap, leaned forward and with an air of someone excited to hear a great bit of gossip asked, “So, how do you like dating?!”. UGH! Swipe right! Or Left or whatever you do to have this person never suggested to you again!
I went to someone else; a wise, loving, gentle person who was just right for me.
You will find lots of therapists who have enough education, some of those will have enough experience. Of those, The best one for you will be the one you feel the most comfortable with, the one that you feel understands you and your situation and can help you personally. This is the one you should choose.
About my “style”
I offer understanding, warmth, humor and new ways to look at things. I give people support in learning new skills so that they can overcome pain, solve difficult problems and thrive. I’m highly relatable, experienced and sympathetic. What I’ve learned over many years of practice helps clients approach long-standing problems in fresh ways. I set the bar high for your relationships (Why would you want a mediocre partnership?) and for your whole life. I hold a strong vision of success for each person or couple with whom I work. I look for your strengths and help you to identify them and put them to use in new ways. I’m very active in sessions. I want you to get the most out of our time together. It’s important to me that you leave each meeting with some new understanding, a new idea and hope. I often wear jeans and I swear only if you do.
“Lori is always empathetic and compassionate. She is a great listener who always shares terrific, positive ideas on how to handle a variety of issues and situations. Lori has a way of making you feel extremely comfortable and safe at a time when you could easily feel the opposite. She gives you her undivided attention and focus and is successful at helping you see the big picture. Lori has a way of providing a realistic viewpoint that isn’t sugarcoated with suggestions or ideas that won’t work.”
– “Richard”
“I looked forward to my sessions with Lori every week. Lori creates an atmosphere that is very comfortable and makes it easier to talk about hard things. She helped me to navigate through my challenges. Together we delved deeper until and were able to discover the nature of my problems. To this day I tap into my prior sessions to problem solve. I am so grateful to her.”
– “Carolyn”
“Our family went through an incredibly stressful time regarding children, relationships and finances. Lori’s compassionate listening, sharp insight, calm demeanor and truth telling were invaluable for all of us. We are extremely thankful we met Lori and couldn’t recommend her more highly!”
– “Joe”
“It was such a relief to find a therapist who I felt so comfortable to open up and talk to. I know that it can be very difficult to find a good “match,” but within the first 10 minutes of talking with her I knew that this would be a perfect fit for me. Her thoughtful questions and calm personality helped me realize that there were other ways of looking at my situation. Facing what this life throws at you is sometimes overwhelming. It’s very comforting to know that Lori is there and that I didn’t have to feel alone. I would highly recommend her to anyone!”
– “Susan”
“My first visit with Lori was such a good match I couldn’t wait to come back. Each session I would leave feeling more positive about myself and more at peace with all that was going on in my life. Lori always made me feel I was special and deserved to have happiness no matter what I felt about myself at the time of our sessions. Lori is kind and empathetic and a wonderful listener with true perspective and insight into anything we discussed. She helped me move forward and now I am truly in the best place I have ever been and I attribute much of that to her help and guidance. I recommend Lori very highly.”
– “Heather”